Making it work: We can get through this

He was still in my life but he was no longer the man I knew. I think the big thing was acceptance and acknowledgement - acknowledgement that there was something lost. That was key for both of us. It created a sense of opportunity, and we were able to make something from it because we know, or we know now, that grief is transient. - Family Member

I’m blessed to have been able to find my way through a very dark, dark place. And for my husband to be where he is? I’m very proud. - Family Member

Remember we are all doing the best we can in any given moment. If you are feeling lost, at “loose ends” and grieving the life that was, start by recognizing the loss. Acknowledge how your life is changing and how it is affecting you and your family.

Try taking on one challenge at a time. Start small, be patient with yourself. Think about what worked for you in the past, and where you get your strength for life’s challenges.

Give yourselves time and patience and acknowledge progress, no matter how small. It can create momentum that helps you move forward on this new track.

Through trial, error and a good dose of compassion and understanding on both sides, most couples and families find their way through this transition. They take time to enjoy one another’s company, rekindling their bond. They learn how to talk with one another, to truly hear one another, and to drop any judgement and blame.