When there is trauma

When a Veteran is discharged or retired with work-related distress, OSI, PTSD, or PTSI, or, if this comes to light after leaving the service, the effects can add enormous stress to the couple and family. The stress on the relationship can feel overwhelming. Confusing or alarming behaviour might be taken personally when in fact it’s the trauma.

If you are in this situation, learning about trauma and its relationship to grief is very important. We encourage you to review Grief and trauma, which includes the impact of grief and trauma on the Veteran, the spouse, and family.

Leaving the service doesn’t always go well, particularly when the Veteran is suffering from trauma, and the related grief. Trauma can impact daily life. Memories can be triggered and experienced as an attack. Sometimes, the deeply wounded and traumatized are a risk to themselves and others.

It's critical to seek professional help in these circumstances for your own and your family’s safety.